Wednesday, March 5, 2025

Sliding Doors




(Note: The absolutely hilarious thing about my last post is that I completely forgot that I wrote it, and since then have been absolutely astounded (several times) that I have ADHD.  And yes, I still maintain that I am the only person on Earth surprised by this.)

Sliding Doors was a 1998 film about how different life can turn out just by simply missing a train. One little change starts a chain reaction that results in completely different outcomes. Lots of books have been written and movies have been made using this premise (Serendipity and About Time, for example). It's an intriguing thought, isn't it? If only I'd said yes or no... If I had done this or that... If I had just moved three inches to the left, or left 5 minutes later... That is the path to madness, because of course there is no way to change those things. And by choosing something else, we sacrifice many of the people and circumstances in our life now.


In October-November 1988 I temped in the PR office of the Jewish Community Centers of Chicago. That November 9-10  was the 50th anniversary of Kristallnacht, the Night of Broken Glass, a pivotal event in what would become the Holocaust. I wrote many press releases during those weeks I was there, as well as articles about Holocaust survivors' memories of that night. There was a home for elderly Holocaust survivors, the Selfhelp Home on the street right behind my apartment building, and I hadn't even known about it until I typed that up in that tiny office. The remembrances of this awful night were moving and sad. I have thought of that job often over the 37 years since then. What would it have been like to experience living in Nazi Germany at that time? For the people that escaped the country, how did they know when to leave? What was the final straw that propelled them to leave family, friends, their country, and their livelihoods? They grieved for those family members who did not leave, those who suffered and perished. But what did they see that others did not? Or was being part of the Resistance the better, more noble path?  There is nothing shameful in just keeping your head down and getting through each day, either. All different paths to follow, and no way to know the outcome of either one.


So here we are in March 2025, not even two months after an evil man who is hellbent on destroying our country has taken office. There is a lot of opposition and resistance, but he, his minions, and his oligarch handlers are cutting a huge swath of chaos across this country. This has caused the stock market to plummet, and inflation and unemployment to rise. Morale is low and fear is high. Presidential terms are four years, so we usually know we have a good chance of a change if we can just stick it out. But our Russian-backed Commander in Chief is not-so-playfully talking about changing the Constitution to eliminate the two-term limit. Every day I read the news and think, "Inconceivable!" but I don't think that word means what I think it means anymore.


But what do we do? Outlive and outlast? Cut our losses and run? Europe looks pretty good right now. Canada looks even better, but I doubt they would let us in. How do you know when to leave? What can we learn from those people all over the world in the 1930s and 1940s that figured it out and knew when to go, though not knowing where they would end up? How do I advise my kids so they can thrive and succeed in their lives? Am I reading too much into this and getting caught up in the fear that is everywhere around us? How do I stomach being in the same room with those who voted for this creature?  Have to coexist with them?


For now, I am reading, not watching TV (the orange one's voice churns my stomach), researching, thinking, observing, and absorbing. I'm choosing my friends and associates carefully. I'm encouraging my kids to get their finances in order and update their resumes. We're putting in a garden this year so we're not quite so reliant on high grocery prices. I'm grateful I work from home now so I don't have to put so many miles on my car. I am amazed at the little decisions and random acts that moved my life from point to point to where I am now, a few of which I recognize but most of which I am completely clueless about. But where do we go from here? Which train do we take?

Sunday, January 13, 2019

So Much to Think About



I know that I tend to overthink things.  I remember taking a Statistics class in college. I actually liked the class a lot, and thought the homework problems were pretty interesting.  But I did terribly on the tests because I would read way too much into the questions. I just wouldn't answer them with a straightforward answer because I was sure the professor was trying to be really tricky and what he REALLY meant was xyz instead of abc. 

That's kind of how I live my life on a daily basis, and it's honestly pretty exhausting.  I was working on a spreadsheet yesterday (as one does on a Saturday morning) of all our energy costs.  Then I started researching thermostats, which naturally progressed to doorbells. Before I knew it, I had about 30 tabs open on my laptop and half my Saturday was gone. Were there dishes in the sink? Yes. Was I still in my pajamas? Yes. Do I still have stacks of Christmas things lying around waiting to be packed away? Yes, I do. 

I've been trying to listen to audiobooks more, but my brain won't shut up long enough to absorb anything.  I have to keep restarting them because my stupid brain was chasing some stupid rabbit down a stupid hole.  Even when I play a video game, I do it with the sound completely off.  Between the noises of the game and my brain going 100 miles a minute, it's just too overwhelming.  Maybe I have ADD.  Maybe that's 100% obvious to everyone but me.

I bet I drove my poor mom nuts.


Thursday, January 3, 2019

Twice in One Year!

Wow, only January 3 and I've written two posts!!

Yesterday morning I read about Mediterranean cooking and how it's a healthy way to eat.  I've gotten way too picky over the years and I looked at the food list and said, "Gross, ew, nope," to way too many things.  I'm not a lover of avocado and olives, but maybe I can become one with practice. 



As luck would have it, I had just saved a Mediterranean-esque recipe that looked really good and thought I'd give it a try.  I used basil from my own plant, and other than deciding to cut the lemon juice/zest in half next time, I loved it.  It's called Lemon Basil Shrimp Risotto, which is a remarkably descriptive title, and you can find it here. Travis and the kids really liked it, so I'll move it into my menu rotation.

I also started listening to "Becoming" by Michelle Obama, but fell asleep a few minutes into it.  This is why reading to your children is so effective--it really does induce sleep. It's not boring at all, her voice is just very soothing.


I only managed to get a couple more rows done on Adelaide's sweater, but it was a little bit anyway.  I'm making "Gidday" by Georgie Nicolson. I'm using a purple/green heather cotton yarn I've had forever, but I really like it.  I think it will be too big for her until the fall, but then she'll get some use out of it.  She's such a cute little bug (that's not her in the picture, though she's really cute, too).


Today I'll start taking down the Christmas tree.  So sad, but I have to go back to work on Monday so it needs to happen.

Tuesday, January 1, 2019

The Return of Desire

I was surprised to see that it has been over 5 years since I wrote on this blog.  But really, it has been that long since I've written much of anything at all.  Life got a bit harder than I had expected it to.  Stress, frustration, lack of time--the usual suspects, I suppose.

But let's try this again, shall we?  I've missed writing.  But I also just finished off 2018 with a real lack of a sense of accomplishment.  I managed to "make it through" another year, but that's not what I want at all.  I want to look back on a year (hopefully I'll have that chance again in 364 days) and feel like I've done something, learned things, improved my life, and most importantly, helped my kids be happier than they were a year ago.

But we are all basically self-centered beings, so I'll start with what I did today.

I slept until 12:25pm.  Not exactly starting the year out with a morning run, but there it is.  Then I made oven-baked french toast that failed pretty thoroughly (I threw out half of it). But then I noticed a short story on Goodreads that I hadn't seen before, so I read that.  It was okay, but not great.  But I'll read pretty much anything by Rhys Bowen.


And I finished a book I've been working on for months. This was a struggle to read, and I'm just glad I got through it.


I ripped out a sweater I had started for my niece Adelaide and started it all over again.  I had taken so long to work on it that I'm gambling that she's grown into a larger size, hence the restarting.


I emailed my friend Pat, way over in London. She always has a million projects/books/things going and I feel positively lazy after reading about them.  I made homemade chicken noodle soup that turned out pretty well (a little heavy on the black pepper, but that's not so awful). And Travis and I watched an episode of "Monty Don's Italian Gardens" on Netflix.  I also started a puzzle of a Scottish castle. 

Lots of relaxation, some productivity, but most importantly, feeling like I wanted to write again. 


Wednesday, October 2, 2013

St. Louis Star

 
When I was a kid, I became a bit obsessed with the "Little House" books by Laura Ingalls Wilder.  I read all of them, some multiple times.  I even had a songbook and cookbook, I think.  My dad used to tell stories of our illustrious ancestors who came across the country in covered wagons, or were disemboweled and had their intestines wrapped around a tree.  You know, feel-good stories that made you proud to be a member of the family.  
We moved often because of my dad's career in the military, and I really thought about what it would have been like for those who left their families behind and never, ever saw them again.  When the Ingalls family left Wisconsin to head west, their extended family was just as close as mine was.  But once they were gone, that was pretty much the end of that.

Back when I was in high school, my sister made a log cabin quilt.  I thought that was pretty much the coolest thing ever, so I made one called the "Virginia Reel."  I took that quilt with me to college, but over time it fell apart and died a sad death, mostly because I didn't sew it well in the first place.  
 
When my dad was really sick, I was able to fly home a few times a year to see him.  This was a really nice opportunity, and one which I recognize isn't possible for many people.  Because Dad's meds made him sleepy a lot, and because no woman in our family ever has idle hands, I brought back a quilt that I wanted to make.  I bought this new quilt as "Block of the Month" sets from JoAnn Fabrics, so everything was pre-cut.  I thought that was cheating a bit, but it was on sale and I liked the colors.  Each trip back, whether by plane or car, I packed that quilt along with me.  Mom pinned and I sewed, and eventually we had twelve big pieced blocks.  Then we worked on the sashing and borders.  I bought some coordinating fabric to make the outermost border just to make it a bit bigger.  

Dad died nearly three years ago, so all the finishing work I did here at home.  I finally finished stitching the binding down today.  It's real name is "Pathway to the Stars," but I will always think of it as the "St. Louis Star."



I'm going to put it on my bed tonight, and try not to freak out when the dog jumps up on it.  I have about five more quilts (much smaller) that I'm working on, so hopefully I'll have more projects to add.

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Sweet, Oh So Sweet

I've been volunteering nearly continuously in Scouting programs for our church since 1990.  I've been in Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts, and for the most part it has been a lot of fun.  Until recently.

The ecclesiastical leader over the Scouting program was changed about a year ago.  The new guy is a pompous ass who I used to work with over at the school.  He loves to hear himself talk, and is devoted to the Scouting law and manuals like no other.  He knows every little bit of those manuals, but hasn't an ounce of Scouting spirit in him.  I hated working with him, getting emails from him, even seeing him. 

One of his first acts as Reichs President was to put his wife in as my assistant (I'm the committee chair), specifically over advancement.  She's the type of person who says horrible things about the boys, and then turns around and says what "neat young men" they are.  They have really mean children, and Tinkerbell is right in between two of them age-wise.  Her children are constantly teasing and putting her down, both in public and in private.  Frau Ass is very dedicated to her advancement duties, no doubt about that, but doesn't want any input or help from me.  Fine, have at it.

Last week we had the weirdest Court of Honor I've ever seen in my life.  Herr Ass had everyone saluting and repeating the Scout Law like a bunch of Hitler Youth.  He goes on and on and on and on for seemingly forever.  He said some outrageous things.  For instance, the reason Lord Baden Powell created Scouting was to bring boys to God through the gospel of Jesus Christ.  Um, no.  He did believe religion was important, but was also a socialist who loved Mein Kampf and supported Mussolini.  Details, details.  He wanted the boys to invite their scout leaders to their temple weddings in the future, and said that the Scout Law should be considered the "Oath and Covenant of the Aaronic Priesthood."  Now if you're not LDS, I'm not going to explain all that, but suffice it to say that that's a pretty sacrilegious thing to say.

I got up and walked out.  Just couldn't take it anymore.

Flash forward to the following Sunday, and lo and behold they thank me for my service in Scouting and send me on my way.  I'm now going to be in the library handing out chalk and erasers where I can do no harm.  So I thought it would be the nice, magnanimous thing to get all the files in order for the next person.  I asked Frau Ass for the files back so I could go through them and clean them up.  Oh no, my email this morning contained a letter from Herr Ass saying I should turn everything over to her, and he would train my replacement, even though neither of them knows how to keep records.

Well, fine.  But I won't ever talk to him again, or give him the records.  I'll give them to the bishop and let him deal with it.  I deleted the troop email account, the Facebook page, and the blog.  I won't organize one blessed thing, or tell them how low the account is at the Scout store, so when Frau Ass goes to buy awards, she'll have to pay out of her own pocket.  Ha ha ha.  That's what I had to do when I first started, all from scratch.  They don't want my help?  Fine, you're on your own.

Normally I wouldn't publish this.  I have loads of posts I wrote in a tiff and keep as drafts.  But this one goes online.

Bite me.

Sunday, September 8, 2013

One Small Step...

I made a comment in church today.

That's it.  I haven't made a comment in church in years and years because I was afraid I'd say something too controversial.  But I don't particularly care anymore if someone else is offended or not. 

So I said something.  And the world didn't end, and people still talked to me. 

This will only encourage me, people.