Monday, March 16, 2009

A Rant

Why does a certain teenager think that I really enjoy screaming at her to get up in the morning? Does she really believe that I'm reaching the full measure of my potential by trying to get her out of bed at 6 am so she can get to school to do a tardy make-up because she wouldn't get up on time the rest of the semester? Did I work my butt off in college for this to be my life's work? Is the reason I walk every day to keep my heart healthy enough that I don't keel over and die while I'm driving her everywhere under the sun?

Just curious.

7 comments:

Karies place said...

I think it's just a test for us. How are we handling our children. Thank goodness for repentance. :)

Diane said...

Do you think she'll repent for tormenting me, or me for plotting to send her to a convent? :)

Karies place said...

ROFL who knows.

Dave said...

And you were a model teenager who never gave your parents any trouble whatsoever... OTOH teenagers need their sleep and hopefully you let her sleep until noon on the weekends to catch up.

Diane said...

I was never that mouthy, at least at 6 in the morning. It takes me awhile to warm up.

Diane said...

Besides Dave, you knew me back then. I'm sure you could attest to the sweetness and calm I brought to any situation!

Dave said...

There is a certain dynamic between mothers and their teenage daughters. I see it between my wife and daughter in that she tries to be overly protective of her. My daughter usually just rolls her eyes. A lot of times I'll step in and defend my daughter if it gets unreasonable. I think my wife is afraid our daughter will do some of the things she did. Our teenagers need to perform that psychological separation from their parents just like we did from ours. It is normal and healthy. Someday we will get them back as adults.

My mom used to excessively dominate my sister, who was a grade behind me in school. For the most part my sister quietly complied and you would have thought her as the model child. However, after she got married my mom was not welcome in her life, period. My folks seldom got to visit and spend time with her kids. The relationship never was healed and my sister died suddenly and unexpectedly in 2004. My folks not only mourned the loss of a daughter but a lost relationship as well. I was lucky enough to be in Maryland the week before she passed and got to hug her and tell her I loved her.

So Diane, if your daughter tells you to F off, just hang in there. It will get better. I remember you having an independent streak and the fruit doesn't fall too far from the tree, does it?